A lot of people really liked my post 50 Ways to Make Friends.
Many of my posts here are a bit too technical, and don’t get much response. But it felt really good to write something that helped people.
So I decided to write another 50 Ways to Make Friends.
I hope this list of ideas and ways to make or improve friendships is just as useful!
1) Wear funny shirts
This is number one because it’s amazingly effective. Funny shirts help get conversations started in a wide variety of settings. Plus they can be quite cool.
2) Ask someone to show you their photos
People love sharing their photos. It can be Facebook photos or real ones; either way, they’ll like you a lot for asking.
3) Be eager to learn new things
Most people are experts in a certain field or area. Ask about their expertise!
They’ll be glad to share. You’ll learn something new while starting a new friendship. Pretty awesome.
4) Self promote a little
Don’t be ashamed to talk about the cool things going on in your life.
5) Remember things
Conversations are made a lot easier when you remember stuff already talked about.
6) Throw a party or event
A great way to reinforce old friendships, make new ones, and just have fun is to throw a party. You can make it a potluck to save money. There are tons of possible variations and themes for you to consider.
7) Know what you shine at
Do things that you enjoy. You’ll have fun and so will the people you’re hanging out with. Conversely, don’t do things that bore the heck out of you.
8) Don’t be afraid to share
People have big hearts. If something is going on in your life, most people would love to help.
9) But hold back a little
Some things are private for a reason. This applies both to you, and to the people you’re talking to. Don’t dig too hard for juicy information.
10) Start a band!
Not for everyone, but starting a band is a great way to have fun.
11) Meet in public places
If you meet with your friends in public, like a coffee shop, your conversation might attract potentially cool strangers. Works especially well in college settings.
12) Have a way to get in touch
If you met someone and want to be friends, have a way to stay in touch!
13) Cook with friends
For some, inviting friends over to cook some complicated dishes is a great way to socialize. Plus you can eat the yummy food (or pretend to eat it while eating take-out pizza) while watching a fun TV show.
14) Accept invitations
Make it your habit to say “yes” when invited to a social event.
15) Be friendly
A bit obvious, but important. Even when you feel crappy, force yourself to be polite and friendly.
16) Don’t judge people
It’s easy to judge people. But you’re probably just as screwed up in different ways. No one does well in the spotlight.
17) Spread yourself out
Have a few close friends. Having just one very close friend has its positives, but can backfire.
18) Join a religious community
19) Help people out
As Jordan from Scrubs put it, “Helping someone move is great! It’s like oral sex. You do it once, and they owe you for the rest of their lives.”
Less cynically, it’s great to help your friends. And it’ll pay back when you need help.
20) Join an alumni organization
21) Compliment people
If someone does a great job, or just does something cool, let them know! Everyone likes being appreciated.
22) Be a good conversationalist
This link has some good advice on how to be a good conversationalist.
Practice being social. The more you try, the better and more natural it’ll become.
24) You’ll get rejected
Along the way, you’ll get rejected every now and then. Or maybe a lot of times. It’s ok. You’ll get there.
25) Be patient
Friendships take time to develop. Patience!
26) Use mnemonics to remember names
When you meet someone, try to come up with an association of their name to help remember it.
27) Do something you love
28) Be a social activist
Get involved with social activism groups. You’ll make a difference in the world while hanging out with like-minded people.
29) Have fun!
You’re an adult now for the vast majority of the time. But when you’re with friends, you can be anything you want to. So let loose a little – have fun!
30) Start a study group
Find a subject you and some friends would like to learn, then start a group to study it together. Topics can range from web design to writing.
31) Stay in touch with those you meet/know
If you like someone and want to stay friends with them, try to see them at least 1-2 times a year. For a good friend, it should be a lot higher, of course.
32) Be positive
Don’t complain, whine, gossip, et cetra.
33) Travel with friends
34) Get a pet!
Having a pet is pretty much like having a friend. But of course, having a pet opens a whole new community to you.
35) Be there
When your friend needs help, give it. Remember what’s really important in life.
36) Don’t give up
37) Make friends at work
38) Treat people like they’re important
39) Show that you like someone
It’s okay to show that you are friends with someone or think they’re cool. People like to know they’re valued
40) Go for drinks with someone
This one is a bit intense, but getting drinks with someone is a really powerful way to get to know them better. Just keep it in moderation.
41) Do something beyond the call of duty
42) Surprise your friends
Do something nice for a friend for no reason. They’ll probably do the same for you. Before you know it, both of your lives will be a bit more interesting.
And even if they don’t return the favor, you’ll feel good for having done something nice.
43) Go dancing
44) Practice basic hygiene
It’s hard to make friends when your breath smells like a dragon!
45) Ask people about their families
46) Know about body language
Body language is a tricky subject. But if someone suddenly starts tapping their foot, or crosses their arms, it’s possible you hit a sore spot. Don’t obsess over body language, but know the basics.
47) Relate to people in their way
48) Tell people about cool things!
49) Value the friends you have
Your friends are, flaws and all, a pretty awesome bunch. Value what you’ve got!
50) Share useful sh*t like this list!
That’s right. Studies show that sharing lists like this one not only wins you tons of new friends – it also makes you more attractive.
This list will be added to as we go along.
Update June 2018:
51) Online gaming
You could make friends gaming online. Playstation, Xbox, etc. all have their online communities where players can chat while gaming. Of course, you should always take precaution if you want to meet anyone from these communities in real-life that you never met face to face. These particular friendships are best kept virtual.
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