What Sucks & What Rocks About ADHD

A businessman and woman

A businessman and woman

You’re distractable, impulsive, and constantly worried if you’re doing the right things.

But you’re unpredictable, fun, and always trying out new things.

Having ADHD can be a real pain in the butt.  Still, it gives you strengths and differences that you probably don’t appreciate.

It’s up to you to learn how to use the good and accept your limitations.

Great Success

People with ADHD can be incredibly good at focusing on what’s important to them, impatient in some ways, and able to multitask really well.  They tend to get excited by things which are new and exciting to them and can think of entirely new ideas, innovating.

Michael Phelps, one of the most admired swimmers ever, has ADHD.  He used his ability to focus on what matters to him to become the best in the world.

Emily Dickinson, a famous poet, may have had ADHD.  She is famous for having written a massive amount of poetry that stands out for its high quality – her ability to produce such creative art and so much of it is classic ADHD.

Seth Godin a modern marketing guru, has ADHD.  He used his out-the-box thinking to come up with marketing ideas that are ingeniously simple and effective.

I know several executives who have ADHD and they are all extremely interesting people, highly accomplished and fun to work with.  The technology business and popular music scene are always evolving, require learning new ideas constantly, and always changing – perfect for people with this condition.

Challenges

But it’s not all good.  People with ADHD can find it incredibly hard to finish tasks, to sit through meetings, or plain pay attention.  Social relationships can also be a challenge.  Friendships may be exciting at first but lose their luster, with your friends feeling unappreciated, or simply not understanding the way you show your care for them.

If you have it, you may only feel fully comfortable in certain environments.  You may, for instance, only be able to think about a subject for an extended period of time while doing something totally unrelated, like taking a walk or riding a bus.

And you may have brilliant ideas that, when you actually have to do, turn out to be a lot more boring than you thought.  Or when you pursue them, you get bored just as they start becoming successful.

You may even be confused for someone with bipolar because of the many similarities between the two conditions.

Ultimately…

ADHD is so common that it could be argued to be normal.  If you have it, then that’s what you have, and you’re different.  That doesn’t mean worse or bad, but it does mean that you have to understand your strengths and weaknesses.  And don’t downplay your strengths.

If you can’t make it through a long meeting, but can spend hours doing your own thing – that’s great.  Think of it like this: the vast majority of people can do what you can’t, which means it isn’t that special.  But, because ADHD talents tend to be really esoteric and focused, there is hardly anybody who has the ability to do what comes easily to you.

You also have to realize that you may work in a different way than other people.  And you have to take their feelings into consideration as well as realize that what may make perfect sense to you might not to them.  Don’t be overly neurotic, of course, but be smart and realize there is a difference and, sadly, it’s up to you (because it’s your life) to bridge the gap.

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55 thoughts on “What Sucks & What Rocks About ADHD

  1. I am a couple years into the treatment off my ADHD with Adderall.  My life had spiraled out of control and I had all the symptoms shown on this site.  Despite behavioral issues all my life I have been able to build a successful business.  I used to skip out of work every chance I got.  Now I work too late many nights.  I am getting a lot done but it is at the expense of my play time.  My wife likes me better on the Adderall and I am a better husband.  

  2. Wow…so much in common with folks…I too have a counseling degree and earn $46K….and struggle w inattentive ADD. Find at 59 I am mourning roads not taken, while still taking and planning to take those roads when I can. The shortage of regular Adderall was hard…I take a low dose and the same as an XR makes my heart race. The hardest parts are that I have a hard time remembering to take the medicine as well as remembering to get the prescription for the refill…I mean, you’d think there’d be more awareness that our forgetfulness IS from ADD! Side note: I get irritated when people say they ARE ADD. How can people say they are a disorder (that’s what the second D stands for)? A lot of people with ADD are creative, brilliant, kind people — they are not ADD, it is just a disorder we have that affects our behavior. Who we are is manifold, many things. I feel so deeply for other who also wish they were different but know that we mean well and are doing our best and that we are sometimes exceptional at what we do well. Hugs to all.

  3. Ok, this is extremely interesting. LOL, I was researching Prescription assistance for my meds, stumbled on this and haven’t gone any further. Needless to say I really should have been working on school work but like most find it hard to get started and stay focused. Just started Adderal XR today which I have used briefly in the past with great results/ I also take Welbuterin on a long term basis, been on Ritalin IR for 8 mos. but stopped working and didn’t work to well anyway. Dr wants to add Abilify, not sure about that one, does anyone have experience with Abilify? It is very expensive ($445 for 30, 5mg tabs) and I can’t afford it anyway, just curious. I am 52 with recent ADD diagnoses, and a 35 yr off and on veteran bartender. I have struggled for years feeling worthless and stupid but also tried my entire life to get help. I like most have not found success at anything I done except bartending. I have tried many types of employment and this is my 3rd and final attempt at getting a college education striving for Nurse Practitioner or Phys. Assist. but struggling to stay on task. I have lifetime issues with chronic depression (self diagnosed @ 14) and anxiety along with alcohol abuse and cocaine in the past, not now. I was abused sexually once as a child, physically by other children constantly from age 7 to 15, became a mother @ 17, married twice with a continuous line of physical and/or mentally abusive relationships (sometimes it was me doing the abusing or responding in kind), struggle with self-esteem and self-worth. I currently live (10 yrs) with an untreated bipolar depressive because I can’t support myself or household expenses, although I care about him like a very good friend and used to be in love with him.. Who is ocd, controlling, passive-aggressive, never happy, never smiles, always negative, always with the nasty negative comments about myself, my brother (early onset dementia) and son (when he was here but now in prison) with schizophrenia. I feel somewhat emotionally vacant and distant, ending most days with a few drinks or more sometimes. I sometimes get really ugly when I drink and think about my past or am upset about the way he has been treating me or what’s been going on recently, saying really ugly and hurtful things. Because of the cost of Adderal ($326 for 60 caps @ 30 mg),the current dig , he is saying I am addicted, don’t need them, it’s an excuse and it is just a way of getting high which it doesn’t have that effect on me. Heres where I am at, I have never had a satisfying relationship and life is running out. I don’t want to die having never experience real happiness or contribution to this world. I guess this is kind of rambling but what was on my mind. Now I need to try and get some school work done because I am 2.5 modules behind in Health with a paper due soon also and have Psy module due next week and a paper also.

  4. Can anyone help me??? I have received negative feedback concerning myself in my career and I have been thinking about whether I am really cut out for what I am trying to do (business / consulting) and whether I will be able to succeed. Per the Dean of Students, no matter what I do I won’t succeed and I proved him right once the day after he said that to me, by sleeping through an interview (didn’t hear my many alarms). I received a nasty letter from the Dean and now he had proof he was right and I believe him anyway. Okay, and I was starting to get very down on myself and got sick of always screwing up and apologizing. I then stopped really trying. I didn’t realize this at first but my psychiatrist told me the Dean is a narcissist and that is why the Dean cares and I just need to do what he says. My doctor also noted that I was being passive aggressive cause I was simply pissed off with the system and the politics and I am trying to self-handicap. You know? He was so right! Right after my first missed interview that prompted the dean to yell at me, I missed my flight to an interview session in SF and I was somewhat sad I was able to get on another flight. This was my subconscious doing these awful things and I didn’t really see that until it was pointed out to me. I also think I was being passive aggressive as my and found myself not preparing for interviews and / or procrastinating. I simply felt I could not go on anymore. I am doing the same things over and over again yet expecting different results. And then I would barely make it on time and I have even missed or almost didn’t make an interview. Some things that I do, do really seem offensive to me; other things I do don’t seem to be such a big deal and I wonder why the consequences and people are so harsh. I already am hard on myself as it is. I just have been dealing with a lot of failures and criticism that it is hard to keep going on and on. I feel like I am losing my mind and things are getting worse and worse…

    I think I think my issues may be due to ADHD. Well, I was diagnosed with ADHD last year for the first time (age 30) but I didn’t think I really understood what that meant. How was I diagnosed? I was hit by a car while walking to grad school and had some issues with focus and cognition afterwards. I was referred to an outpatient psychiatric facility for memory testing (like an IQ test) and on easy tasks I performed below average and on challenging tasks I performed well above average. I remember being bored a lot and frustrated. I felt the tester was patronizing me. The doctor who read the report noted impulsivity and suggested that is what I had and then I followed up with a psychiatrist who prescribed medication.

    Although those with ADHD seem to have trouble finishing tasks, I have managed to complete some pretty great resume builders. I just completed business school from a full time top MBA program and I graduated in accounting first in my class undergrad, passed the CPA exam on the first try, and earned a graduate certificate and another certification. However, I am not successful!!!!! I don’t know how I was able to do so well in undergraduate school. In grad school, I had trouble working in groups and didn’t do quite as well my first year. I started taking Adderall my 2nd year and I got a 3.9 and had more classes and even socialized quite a bit. But then I am having some issues still and I am having trouble getting a job. I have trouble during interviews with rambling, how I communicate, being tardy, being too casual, telling personal information, saying things that aren’t necessary, and saying things that are stupid and not realizing it beforehand. I like to not be very serious and interject humor or else I can’t stand the interview. Why? It’s boring and I hate all of the BS, I think, anyway. It’s like I am awesome, duh. I feel uncomfortable selling myself, etc. I have gotten many interviews it is a joke and I keep failing. I had a job for a week and was let go because the client didn’t like me, that was an extremely conservative and cynical client ( the senior manager dropped the ball and didn’t let the client know my purpose all I did was ask two questions but I was asked to not talk and I didn’t get that).

    Basically I since my medication hasn’t been working and I wasn’t succeeding, didn’t really think I had an issues with ADHD (and wasn’t diagnosed as a child )so I did some research. I read this article /2009/12/what-sucks-what-rocks-about-adhd/ then read all of the comments below. I could identify with all of them almost. I pretty much thought I could have written the very first comment posted. It’s crazy. The bottom line is that I am wired differently. So now it makes me wonder whether I can mitigate for my impulsivity, lack of focus, being forgetful, late, failure to start and or finish things that aren’t of interest, spacing out in meetings, tending to get bored extremely quickly, etc.

    The good things about ADHD are the thinking outside the box, innovation / creativity, love for change, passion, loyalty to things important to oneself and to friends, ability to focus on challenging tasks (I love programming), etc. But can I find something I can do in business?

    I think I may need to work in a non-conservative and flexible workplace that delivers products and services that I can be passionate about and be able to have fun (Darn, the only company I can think won’t hire me or consider me for any positions since there is negative feedback about me in the system). I also have brilliant ideas and love learning but the thing is that I often don’t like to execute and carry out those ideas. One guy’s post per the above article said he had six majors and never finished one of them and made a really good living inventing ways to make money and work for himself. Perhaps this is what I need to do: work for myself and invent a way to make money (though I had a lot of trouble picking a major I wound up completing two degrees, one graduate certificate, and two certifications so that is good). However, another guy posted something that I kind of face: he has had trouble with jobs because he doesn’t do what his passions are since he doesn’t think he can make money so he forces himself to do the opposite (a thing I think I am doing). Another guy posted that he wonders if he can sue for wrongful termination since this is a disability (for being tardy, a problem I have always had and never can seem to control and I think that has been my biggest setback and have been scolded and made fun of for it and I try hard but it sometimes doesn’t work for me).

    Perhaps I need to find the right medication if I cannot find the right job? I am currently taking Vivance but I find myself too intense and need to take myself down a notch. Moreover, I have never smoked before and it makes me want to smoke. I also clench my jaw and I don’t know if these side effects are common. Lately, I have been thinking that I might need to go back to school for something else but come on, I am 31 and am on my way to 32 and have tons of loans. At some point I need to stop going to school and working on the next big thing to keep my interest. Not sure. I guess what I want to know is, is there help for me? Should I keep trying? What if anyone’s help is a waste of their time and I simply can’t get better? It’s really hard for me to admit these things but I need to finally face reality. At this point, I just want to be happy and not live my life constantly failing, constantly putting effort into things over and over again yet not being successful, constantly being scolded and criticized, and constantly feeling bad about myself, and constantly apologizing (some things I literally feel terrible about and other things I feel aren’t such a big deal).

    Another thing is that since I am not working I am suddenly not productive. I work better with a schedule and something that forces me to do things yet I am unable to get myself moving and do the job search again. I find myself bored to tears. I think joining a sports league or getting out of the house would really help me. The trouble is forcing myself to do so but I am trying to meet people and find a league to join since my social life is almost non existent since my grad school friends moved away and are doing the things that I should be doing. Thoughts?

    Has anyone experienced the same issues as I have with medication (need to smoke, rambling, still unable to completely focus for long periods). I think it worked for me but no longer does or perhaps I need a different dose or to try a new med????? Oh another thing is that I have insomnia. Anyone else??? I can’t get to sleep but once I do I sleep too late and don’t hear my alarms. I don’t know what gives. Anyone have this happen? Not sure if it is related to the ADHD. One final question: it seems everyone agrees those with ADHD are really smart and have high IQ’s, which I do. However, are you also quirky and extremely extrovered / high energy? Those are not bad things just wondered if it is connected.

  5. I was diagnosed in my early 30s with add. I startted taking adderall and felt better. Unfortunately it was to late to save my marriage. I am out of work with three kids and now there is a shortage of adderall. my doctor switched me to ritalin. I have been sleeping all day and night. I sure hope this doesn’t last. my brain even feels asleep. to make things worse I believe my 8 year old has it. he is not doing well with the seperation. How can I help him when I haven’t learned to deal with it myself? I’m just so tired. I am on an antidepressent and felt good until I switched medicine.

  6. I found this site while searching for information about alternatives to Adderall, since there is a shortage here.  It’s really quite interesting to read the experiences of others.  I was diagnosed with ADD as an adult and have been on Adderall for about 6-7 years.  The changes have been simply amazing.  Like others, I consider myself musically talented, creative, energetic and driven, but not always in the right direction.  Before Adderall, I burned through a couple of marriages and multiple friends as well as family members.  Nobody really cares if you have ADD, but they do care if you seem disinterested or easily distracted away from what’s important to the relationship.  This is sort of like a golf game.  Nobody will notice if you play poorly, but everybody will notice if you play slowly.  Adderall has changed my life in ways I never expected.  Before taking it, I was often a hot-head.  I thought this was due to lack of sleep, diet or simply disinterest.  As a matter of FACT, if I got it in my head that I was going to build a mechanical flying spacecraft out of old radios and milk cartons, well then why would you DARE suggest that the grass needs to be cut and that I was responsible for cutting it.  Can’t you see how offensive and selfish it is for you to get in my way, while I’m trying to create such interesting things!!!!  While taking Adderall, my attention has been re-directed, but the creativity is still with me.  Now, I can multi-task and also recognize that while making a spacecraft would be awesome, it might get in the way of other important matters.  Instead, I have found that my attention has been (somewhat) redirected to things that are important within my relationships.  I am much less of a hot-head, but still enjoy PRODUCTIVE creativity.  Amazing stuff, Adderall – now I just need to find a pharmacy that can fill my current prescription.  If I don’t find it, look for that flying saucer on toy store shelves before Christmas!!!

  7. All of your comments are so awesome to read. It is ABSOLUTELY challenging to have this “condition” we all share, but your stories have really helped me understand my own.

    I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was very young, too young to even remember. Soon thereafter I was put on Ritalin. I guess I didn’t pay attention in school, or something… or I was always goofing around with friends when I should have been taking things more seriously. The way I see it now, I was just having fun. Since when did this (a kid being more interested in having fun, joking around, and not caring about a boring lecture or a bunch of rules enforced by adults) come to be interpreted as a mental disorder?

    Regardless of how I may have interpreted the situation when I was younger (I am now 28), I am quite certain that I do indeed have ADHD. I managed to get a 4.0 in high school, but for personal reasons I decided to stop taking any ADHD drugs after graduation. I didn’t want to believe that I was any different from any other ‘guy’. College would prove to be frustrating as I changed my major many times, attended four (yes, 4) colleges and universities, and took 6 years to graduate. I went from a 4.0 student in high school, to a student who dropped classes, failed classes, and had to retake classes, if I even went to class. BUT I did graduate… B.A. in Music… 

    Throughout my adult life, I have gone from school to school, job to job, social group to social group, always feeling like each new endeavor is “the right one” but eventually moving on, as though I had somehow “outgrown” those people or situations. I have never just stayed in one place and put down some roots. It has left me with few friends. Reading through some of your stories and examples, I felt as though I shared so many of your “issues”.
    I get bored so easily. I need CONSTANT variety, change, and excitement.
    I can’t work at a normal job like most people.
    I tried working at an office job where I sat in a cubicle all day, staring at a computer… felt like a fish out of water- go figure.
    I find it EXTREMELY difficult to have normal conversations with people about regular, everyday stuff. I find that I have a very strong command of the written word (always have), but in finding the words to say in a conversation I am pretty useless. This is by far the most frustrating thing! 
    I find that I have an addictive personality- drugs (not anymore, thankfully), music, relationships, hobbies, coffee, food, it can be anything… but if I find something that seems to work for me, even temporarily, I’ll cling to it and get lost in it. This can be healthy, and potentially unhealthy. As always, I eventually move on from one thing to the next.

    One thing I am unsure of is the “H” factor in ADHD… If anything, I am generally very mellow and non-energetic. If I could describe how I “suffer” it is more from a lack of energy (physical and mental). I just space out, and think about totally off-the-wall subject matter. I hate trends, and the status quo. I find myself observing others in their normal life and I just naturally want to avoid any sense of standard normalcy (i.e., marriage, kids, steady employment, mortgage, etc…) but at the same time, I don’t want to be left out or miss out on LIFE! I don’t want to be tied down to any one thing. 

    In the last year or so, I have started taking adderall. As a result, my anxiety is up, but so is my determination and energy, as well as the desire to make things happen. Not to be cliched but for the first time in my life I have a real sense of direction. I am on track to get a masters’ degree.

    Good luck to all of you.

  8. Does anyone have any experience with Ritalin beiong prescribed for their child under 6? My little boy is only 4 and we have tried everything other than medication- I am Early Childhood trained so we are very well educated in the area and using great teaching strategies- but its just not enough- we’ve changed his diet, we’ve tried natural alternatibes- he needs something else. BUT there is no research to show that Ritalin is safe under 6- Does anyone have experience with this either way?

  9. I also have ADHD like all of you but I rock it. I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 14 and now I am 21. I go through all the symptoms also, the main one being anxiety because my head thinks fifty-million thoughts per second. However, as I was reading the some blog I glanced at some of the posts and everyone seems to only acknowledge what sucks about ADHD. After a few years of not understanding why I was different I realized that there was a reason God built me this way. I then began to embrace who I was as a person and only then did I begin to live my life to the fullest. So what If I should be doing my homework right now instead of writing on blogs about my disorder, I work better under pressure anyway. To me having ADHD makes me who I am. I am loud, crazy, and annoying to some but who are they anyway.. They’re just mad because they wish they had the energy and spirit that I have.  I love being who I am. However, Thank God for the person whom invented Adderall. 

  10. Unfortunately, although I wanted to, I could not get through all the posts. I am sure you all understand why.
    I can’t believe how many similarities there are listed in your posts that ring true for me.
    I have finally made an appointment with my doctor to discuss medication and take my life back. I just want to go back to college and actually finish. I’m 38 yrs old and should have accomplished something but have not. I just can’t stay excited about anything and I get tired to quickly.

    I think I am finally understanding why I am the way I am. Thanks for this thread!

  11. I ‘m a 62 retired guy. I was diagnosed about 10 years ago. I never really bought into it because I felt it was so subjective, and no real concrete way to diagnose. After some real intensified testing I now realize I do indeed have a problem. I having been taking 30 mg of Adderall twice a day. Although it is somewhat helpful I do not feel it’s a game changer for me. I wonder if many went from Adderall to adderall XR and had better success? I addition to the adderall I take Wellubrutin. 
       My biggest challenge is not only finishing what I start, but starting. I just can’t get myself to go down my “To Do List”. Yes I do make a list and keep a calendar, the trouble is I probably have a dozen of them all over the house.
      To help break things done for me I buy a lot of “For Dummy Books”. It looks as though I belong to a book of the month club for them. I probably have a dozen from Android Cell phones, Golf, Mac’s, Facebook you name it. Guess how many I’ve read? Yeah, zero! Well needless to say I’m very frusterated but surprising I’m probably no more depressed then anyone else. Hopefully I can get some tips at this site. Thanks to everyone in advance.

  12. I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was in elementary school and have taken adderall off and on for the past 16 years. When I take adderall I accomplish so much more and overall life is more tolerable. My question is, do you think adderall is going to affect us in a negative way later on in life? There have not been any long term studies on adderall and I am worried that I am going to regret taking it later on in life. Does anybody have any comments on this? When I ask my doctor about it she says that there is nothing to worry about but I don’t really trust anything that comes out of a doctors mouth.

  13. Lol, I didn’t have time to post my thoughts here as I am already late for work because I started reading this. Great stuff guys!

  14. I was diagnosed ADD about 10 years ago, after having one of my children diagnosed. Unfortunately, my child, who is now grown, was convinced by her father that medication is bad. She wanted his approval so badly she would’t take it. She has struggled mightily over the years, which is sad and could have been avoided. I am so pissed off at him for that. He is just ignorant. I have tried living with and without medication. Just went back on it after two years off. Life is better with it. I take a small dose of 50 mgs Desipramine and 20 mg Ritalin XR. Planning, organizing and focusing are all easier with meds. I am more likely to be on time to work, less forgetful, and can focus for longer periods of time. I don’t interrupt people, and I can think things through before I act. I have no trouble sleeping, as long as I do not have any caffeine after 3:00 p.m. This past month there has been a shortage of the XR at the pharmacy, so I have to take the short acting version. What a difference. I cannot wait to refill the XR. I hope this shortage is a temporary thing. I really don’t like the short term stuff. Feels like it loads all at once and wears off in about two hours. The XR is so much smoother. Living with ADD is not easy, but meds really do help. Just make sure you take your fish oil and mega B vitamins, because I thinks these meds kind of suck the B out of you. Fish oil is a natural anti-depressant. Good luck to all you ADDers out there.

  15. I am 53 years old and was just diagnosed ADHD after the doc diagnosed my son with ADHD and I saw a special on PBS about ADHD. What a relief it was to find out my “normal” does not have to be everyone else’s “normal”. I have always felt like a failure, even though from the outside I seemed successful. I seemed to shoot myself in the foot, so to speak. After I finished my Master’s degree in counseling, I was sure they would take my degree away whe because I failed at something, somewhere, at some time. It is nearly 30 years since I graduated and I can still recall projects that I did not put forth enough effort at. (I must change my negative thinking, but that is easier said than done). I have great project ideas but can’t finish any of them. It has cost me a few jobs and left me hopeless and suicidal. Never could follow through with any real suicide attempts because there was always another project to start, or my house was a mess, or someone might read my journal…
    Now that I am armed with the knowledge and the diagnosis, I have to figure out how best to use my positive traits. Didn’t mean to sound depressing-it is just that I have spent 53 years thinking I was not good enough and have a hard time being positive about that.

  16. I am fast approaching my 41st birthday and recently realized that I have ADD. I have had over thirty jobs so far and despite being a National Merit Scholar and having a Master’s degree, the most I have ever made is $46k and that job lasted 16 months – mostly because no one wanted the uncomfortable task of firing me. I am in debt up to my eyeballs – due mostly to student loans, but also to impulsive, ill-advised consumer credit decisions. I have already been divorced once and I regularly upset my wife by interrupting her or spacing out or freaking out or saying something stupid and then not understanding the problem with what I said. I’m not hyper, but that is primarily because I have smoked pot daily for over 20 years. Ironically enough, I am very adverse to using prescription drugs because I have dealt with hypertension in the past and have a family history of coronary disease. Also, I have a deep – and I feel justified – distrust of the pharmaceutical industry for reasons that are both too obvious and too numerous to detail. Anybody out there actually tried the supplements typically recommended (fish oil, evening primrose, zinc, manganese, vitamin b6, melatonin) in conjunction with dietary changes (eliminating sugar, gluten, dairy, etc.) and increased sleep for any significant amount of time (3 months or longer)? If so, what effect has it had on your symptoms?

  17. Oh where do i even begin?? I’m 20 and have been diagnosed with add AND adhd since i was about 6 and medicated since then as well. i remember asking to stay the night with my grandparents as a child and being accepted only if i had my meds with me. i remember hearing my mother discuss with the doctor (in front of me no less) how she would refuse to take me off the medications. i feel as if my own family only ever loved me as long as i was medicated for my illness. it’s not a physical illness but i find that as i get older that having one or both diagnoses is just debilitating. It’s hard to explain to people why i am the way that i am because when you describe the very symptoms of adhd it sounds like an excuse. No motivation, not interested, bored, antsy. it’s always been “oh try harder!” i have a very very hard time maintaining friends. i am still friends with only one female since highschool. my dating life… well where do i begin? I am rational and irrational. more irrational than rational. I have my random moments of anger just like someone stated above me. I am unsure how my boyfriend is still even with me or manages to be around me. I do feel very bi-polar. when it’s good its great, when it’s bad its terrible. I hurt his feelings all the time and sometimes the damage isnt quickly repairable as the moods flop. I found out that one of his cousins is adhd as well and is married to a non-adhd partner and they are going through a divorce because his wife cannot handle his impulsiveness and mood swings. Thats terrible. I plan to marry my boyfriend some day and it leaves me feeling so empty and hopeless that we will never make it because i will be the very reason that drives him away. i often worry how will i ever manage if i become a mother. will i leave the child unattended because i become just so distracted? it terrifies me. I used to feel like the medications took away alot of my personality but after being off for one year i realized i am alot happier on the medications. I am who i am and i cant waste my life trying to explain to people what’s wrong with me. The best thing to do is to surround yourself with people who are accepting and love you for who you are regardless if you are crazy or not.

  18. Amy, I’ve just turned 40 in December and let me tell you …. I feel exactly the same as you. My husband and mother-in-law are not supportive either. I always get the same “You are : Lazy, Stupid, Fat, and Crazy ” — usually other people call this emotional abuse. I put up with a lot from them. I must have the patience of a saint. I also think they have ADHD, but since they think they are better than me, they simply don’t want to hear that they too need help. I don’t feel angry or upset just sad for them. I am the only one who can break this vicious cycle. I help myself by trying to be better organized (as much as possible though I do drop the ball a lot) and have a routine and teach my child to do the same (its kind of funny because even though I “let” myself drop the ball, I do not tolerate that in my child by not giving him an inch – if I do that, I get too complacent and I know that it sets a bad example). I am also not medicated and I fear the side effects. I’ve read all the posts and I do not wish to try different meds. Also, with my child, I’ve just recently discovered Intuniv at 1 mg seems to do the job for him but it does not make the ADHD go completely away. Everyone who has ADHD has to discover what works for them to live a “normal” life, including natural remedies if they so desire, meds, therapy, or what have you. Good luck!

  19. Being ADHD all my 32 years, and only being medicated for one of them, I’ve failed at nearly everything I’ve ever set out to accomplish. No other “disability” seems to have quite the same reputation. As a group, we’re brilliant, and talented, and ridiculously genuine of intention, just bad at the follow-through.
    I have the most fragile heart, and find it breaking every day due to being misunderstood. I am not intentionally anything that anyone has labeled me, but can’t seem to shake the stigma.
    My biggest critics are my husband, and his mother. The two individuals who are possibly more ADHD than myself, but refuse to medicate. What they refuse to understand is the different manifestations of this living hell. Since I am a thinker and obsessor, not a mover and a shaker, our lives differ so greatly.
    Recently, I read You Mean I’m not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy (make sure it’s the newest edition) it’s life changing for anyone who’s looking to understand themselves… the only problem is it won’t instantly be understood by others. I can’t make anyine else read it, especially when they “hate reading”. Any explination of the information in the book just seems to them like “another excuse”. Anyone else with ADHD married to a non-medicated ADHD counterpart?

  20. I have been a registered nurse for 8 years, I also think that I have had adhd all my life.  I am even having a difficult time organizing my thoughts here.  I love that I think differently than everyone else, I love being creative and a free spirit.  These qualities have always defined me.  I will be turning 34 this year, and I need to get a grip on this.  I have two children, work full-time and just purchased a second home.  I have been controlling/self-helping with exercise, diet changes, grape seed extract, fish oil, ginko, prozac, ativan on occasion, and alcohol when all else fails.  My children have been commenting on my disorganization, and I have had union meetings about my tardiness at work.  Being “spacey” is part of how people know me.  Well my burdens have increased, and I feel a big melt down coming on.  Eventhough I work with people daily who are on adhd medications, I feel embarrassed to ask my Dr. about trying them.  I don”t want her or any one else to judge me.  I really think I need medication.  I just cannot keep it together.  It is stressing me out.   

  21. Frances -there’s a good post on “Long Term Effects of Adderall” from “recovered patient”, might be good to read. My son is 9, daughter’s 7, and I am 37 -all ADHD/ADD! You can imagine what our house must be like LOL. We stopped the Concerta & Vyvanse, are trying supplementation with Kids Centrum with extra Calcium, Magnesium, Zinc every other day. Also, cut out all fast food, cut back on ‘processed’ stuff. Am looking into fish oil’s for kids (worried about mercury though). Have a chore list that we stick to religiously, posted on the fridge, that allowance gets based on. Strict bedtime routine. Also, trying to integrate daily exercise – kinda like boot camp & really get them sweating to capitalize on those natural endorphins… Will repost our outcome..

  22. Reading these posts is very encouraging and offers insight! I thought I was the only person who had something “wrong” with them. I always felt like an outsider looking in. As far as my family, my son who is 8 is on Intuniv now. He’s doing a little better with focus and though it’s a little easier in the morning to get him to brush his teeth, I still feel a little worried about him because the med doesn’t always seem to work. He’s still inconsistent though more polite socially. I would love to hear from more people especially the kids who have been on and off meds how it is affecting them individually and socially. Anthony & Jennifer, THANK YOU! for your post!!! We as parents always wonder if we are doing the right thing for our kids. Especially when they are younger….. All I can say is, keep the dialogue going with your parents. I always want my child to tell me everything (though he is not in his teens yet). I hope that as he gets older I can respect his privacy and space but if there is a probllem, even if they think its just plain stupid, I would want to help fix it. I know that when I was younger I felt like I could not communicate with my parents because it was a different time and different culture in the 70’s and they were from another country to boot… Please as “Americanized” children, please, do try to communicate more with your family because it may just save your life if you are troubled. I hope that by telling them more it will be more beneficial because then we can try to figure out another strategy to help out….I am not just worried about my son, but I am also worried about our society in general and I see kids in their teens as reported by the media going to the extreme by bringing weapons to school and ending lives. I wonder if those kids were medicated or not, or if they felt like there was no other answer. It really hurts to see this. Maybe they also had ADHD and they were picked on???? All i can say is, communication is very important…..how can we figure out what’s wrong, if noone talks about it and lets it fester inside?

  23. Can I just say, “Thank god for this forum!”

    I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 5 and was on Ritalin/Adderall up to age 18, then came off of it, was back on it for a couple of years, then off it again, and now back on it (I know, quite the seesaw journey with medication!).

    I am now 25 and can easily identify the me that used ADHD medication and the me that was not on it; and I definitely prefer the former over the latter. Without the medication, I always felt out of control of situations, easily overwhelmed and never able to shut off my thoughts. Even friends would comment that I always look like I am thinking about something while just walking down the street…the thoughts never stop flowing (during which you can think of some great and random things!).

    But now, with the medication again, I feel like I have an easier time getting control over all aspects of my life, and that is the best feeling.

    Awareness and knowledge are key and participation in a forum such as this should be required for everyone lol. It feels so good to know that you’re not alone. AND P.S. yoga and exercise are FANTASTIC, natural ADHD symptom-relievers alongside medication. :)

  24. I wanted to breifly refer everyone to a website I’ve found that has tremendously helped me to convey my experience to friends & family. The videos are great if you don’t want to purchase a book and ask them to read it, haha. I seem to relate the most to Dr Laura Muggins (I think that’s her last name). But the vid “The Adult Symptoms” is really great & funny. Happy watching! Don’t worry, they’re short! LOL //totallyadd.com/the-adult-symptoms/

  25. Wishing you the best, Jennifer! Couldn’t agree more. I am becoming a bit of an advocate for ‘neurodiversity’ in the workplace, I had to disclose to my employer, though I hadn’t been planning on it (it’s a long story). What are your ideas for public education? I think this may be the last giant hurdle in the fight against discrimination. I, too, appreciate this outlet & reading everyone’s candid posts about their experiences! Has anyone out there successfully convinced their employer to make “reasonable accomodations” for their ADD? if so, what kind? Has anyone ever sued for wrongful termination based on discrimination of this type? I’m not saying I need to, but I certainly sense some “railroading” going on because of my diagnosis. (when in every aspect I have been an exemplary employee). Thanks!!

  26. TO ALL:
    I THINK WE ALL FEEL THE SAME ELATION/RELIEF IN READING THESE POSTS. I AM SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO GRATEFUL FOR ALL OF YOU! THIS JUST M-A-Y HELP MY PARENTS UNDERSTAND ME AND NOT JUDGE ANYMORE/THINK I’M CRAZY/CONSTANTLY CONSUME THEMSELVES AND OTHERS WITH WORRY. I AM SOOOOOOOOOOOO OPTIMISTIC NOW, AND HAVE BEEN VERY PESSIMISTIC AT TIMES. 

    On a different note, LET’S DO SOMETHING ABOUT THIS!!! LET’S GET TOGETHER!! WE CAN SHARE OUR AMAZING QUALITIES AND MAYBE COME UP WITH AN ORGANIZED WAY TO PUT AN END TO THE SUFFERING THAT PEOPLE UNDIAGNOSED AND EVEN AFTER DIAGNOSIS INEVITABLY FACE! LET’S REMOVE THIS ENOORRRRRRRRRRRRRRRMOUS OBSTACLE SO THAT WE CAN CHANGE THE WORLD FOR THE BETTER!! LAUGH?? (I’m sure none of my ADD people are, I mean skeptics)
    WHO CHANGES THE WORLD?? EVERYONE, EVERYDAY….ALL IT TAKES IS AN IDEA AND THE SUBSEQUENT IMPLEMENTATION OF IT IN A WAY THAT THE GENERAL PUBLIC CAN RELATE TO.
    THE WORLD IS YOU, ME……………………………………….

    OPTIMISTIC AS EVER. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR CREATING THIS BLOG. YOU HAVE GIVEN ME BACK MY SPARK WITH MY RETURNED HOPE. 
    ETERNALLY GRATEFUL :)

  27. This was very informative. i pasted the test with a 100. maybe one did not apply. thanks for the insite
    to this adhd condition. look forward to keeping track of this site. will be trying vyvanse this month. will
    comment on its effectiveness. tried adderallxr,concerta, . talk real soon.

  28. I wanted to also briefly say that I posted earlier in this thread as “imnotcrazy”, it wasn’t until just recently that I have truly come to terms with my diagnosis. For many years of dealing with ADD symptoms & feeling totally out of control, people (even family) assume you are essentially crazy! It has been a struggle to reconcile with those people from your past, to show that you have in fact changed & been made well whether it was with meds/counselling or both. I am done making excuses though for myself & my children being “wired differently”, this can really harm our self image & send the wrong message to kids that there is something inherantly ‘wrong’ with them. That is what SUCKS about ADD/ADHD, the misunderstanding & absence of empathy from strangers/teachers/boyfriends/family/coworkers/bosses. We need to advocate for better public understanding. What ROCKS is the creative gifts & ability to think outside the box, most of us can be hugely successful once we learn to harness our potential! Thanks.

  29. Dear Frances, I know exactly what you are going through. I was hesitant to start my children on medication as well. It was as if I were giving up on some other approach that would require more work, etc.. What I can tell you is this. Having ADD and not getting myself treated ruined my second marriage. It was not fair to my ex husband to have to deal with the fallout of a condition that so easily could have been remedied. If only I had it to do over. Also, it was not until I saw how dramatically my life, outlook, job performance, housekeeping, organization improved while on medication, that I conceded to start my ADHD son on Concerta. It saved him from spiralling downward into failures in school/friendships, low self-esteem, depression, it helped. Whether or not we will continue to have success with it remains to be seen. (it has only been a few months). One thing I know also is that consistency, stability, & structure have been what has helped my family maybe more than medication. So, if you make it your goal in life to give them as much of those three things as you can, you may not need meds. As you know, this is virtually impossible if you are dealing with the diagnosis in your own life. Every day is new challenges, more stuff to forget to do, or lose, -as I eluded to in a previous post: I think adults with this disorder have to have loads more discipline than the average non-ADD person. It is VERY TOUGH without the help of meds & remember “If mama aint happy, aint nobody happy!” Hope this helps, don’t give up!

  30. I was never diagnosed with ADHD but i know i have it. i have no sense of time, have trouble balancing my checkbook and my paperwork, gets “filed” into piles i stuff into the closet because it is too overwhelming and boring to deal with. i am not hoarding or anything but try finding letters and docs when you really need them! i’ve had few friends who told me that i was in lala land most of the time but they knew i was a hard working nice person sweet very patient nothing seems to get me down and if i am in crisis, i simply try to look at it from a different point of view. it’s like i play devils advocate against myself sometimes. i know that girls display ADHD differently than boys. girls are more inattentive than boys who are hyper. still i am a little on the impulsive side and when i do things, i tend to overdo i just can’t stop. ive had different jobs and cant hold one down for long. im always late wherever i go and this had always been a problem for me. as an adult my happy go lucky state of being has all but disappeared i am mostly sad depressed nervous and have trouble going to sleep. i love video games but a lot of times if i let myself play i don’t stop and then nothing gets done. to organize i try to write down lists of things to do but most of the time i tend not to finish. and i end up losing the lists in my paperwork. i do not follow thru with stuff unless i have my supportive husband “riding” me on it the whole time which is just plain time consuming and draining for him. i feel bad about having adhd and i can’t help it. this is what SUCKS about it. the good part: trying new things, traveling a lot, finding new friends, the stuff that is really interesting i am very good at! i’m pretty artistic and i love to cook those are the things that truly interest me and i have never abandoned them. i also love to travel and i’ve been to florida, utah, greece, italy, most of the caribbean and even japan! living with no medication is very hard…. but i seem to make do and it hasn’t been bad to the point where i can’t function. the problem is that i now have children and my kids have it too. we’ve been thru a lot with the schools! i see a lot of the same issues in my children and feel terrible that i’ve passed this on to them. managing daily activities was bad enough when i was single but being married with children who have ADHD themselves is extremely difficult! i do not want to medicate myself because my inattentiveness is really not bad. so i forget to do things, so what, get over it! but i realize that my boys have the impulsiveness very hyper very unfocused and they’re frustrated in their struggles with school. i really thought that not medicating them would be an option so i started reading a lot about adhd in kids. its so hard! we’ve been thru 3 different meds (with disastrous results) and 3 different schools. its difficult and agonizing to see them struggle but in this case we’ve run out of options and i no longer want to see them muddle thru life like i am. i am compelled to give them a fighting chance to do well in school and in life because feeling bad about adhd myself and then to see your kids feel the same way is just horrible! sorry about the lenghty confessional but i do want to do what’s best for myself and my children. i am not a bad parent but people look at you and your family as if we’re freaks. we learn differently and we see life differently unlike the normal cookie cutter mentality that exists in our society! so adhd is not a disease, it is a condition like any other medical condition such as genetic “disorders” like downs syndrome or even diabetes, yes, i know 2 completely different conditions! bottom line is: we just have to manage it better and the only way is to use meds to allow people to function better in life and school and work!

  31. I think life is all to crazy I have been add all my life but was never diagnosed entil I was in me twenties I took ritalin and adderall I would say adderall works better than ritalin adderall makes your brain produce more dopamine and keep it free being absorbed into your receptors which is what ritalin does itself but it doesn’t produce more dopamine but ritalin ritalin may work better for some cuz we all have different chemical inbalances so it all boils down to trial and error till you find what’s right for you. I have always have believe in nature thing to treat any kind of illness I don’t know or can’t remember something I do well forget things what the natural remedy is for adhd but I know of an herb phat that has amphtamines in it but I think it illegal in the us but ill look it up and list all natural remedies for adhd.

  32.  Whats so crazy to me is how many different ways ADD effects different people. Me being diagnosed with ADD at the age of 5 on put on Ritalin after being expelled from public school for bad behaviour, i was put in a private school and succeded with no problems, even skipping 10 th grade, School work was nothing to me, it seemed i had a photographic memory and could teach myself. And my abilities to do math were unreal, it seemed as though i was taught it in a previous life, i ended up finishing school with honers and making a 1370 on the SAT’s, When i was diagnosed they said i would grow out of it when i was an adult. WRONG WRONG WRONG, after going from drug to drug and job to job and girl to girl for years i went back to the doc to be treated for depression, when i just happend to say it ( It seems like my ADD is coming back to my doc , he asked, So you have been diagnosed with ADD before? I said yes and thank GOd i had a doc who knew what was up. i was put on adderall and my life was now under control. Well atleast sometimes. I have a very high IQ but still find it very hard to fit in to lifes flo. Its really hard when half the time u can Hyperfocus, and half the time cant focus for nothing. Its a curse and a blessing, life is so different to me. NORMAl people dont understand, do they?   I hope you all find ur blessing with this and succed in life, God know i hope i do

  33. Hi Jordan, I had been on Wellbutrin for many years, had been taking it for depression after lots of other antidepressants failed & it too ‘stopped working’. My guess is that I was misdiagnosed with depression, when actually it was struggles involved with having ADD (as I have only recently been diagnosed). What I am finding is one of the downsides to taking ADD medication (Adderall) is that with all the clarity of thought, improved organization, and efficiency you get – you need to ‘do something’ with all of the creative juices flowing. It helps me to realize that this can be viewed as a gift of sorts, & you have to channel the energy in a productive way or oftentimes you fill up the gaps in your day with smoking, or in your case drinking, or video games, etc…I too seem to get involved in self-destructive paths particularly with relationships moreso than jobs. It’s almost as if I need to be challenged subconsciously. Again, I think we with ADD need to discipline ourselves more than the average person to keep ourselves ‘on track’. I wouldn’t say I deliberately avoid things I love, but for some mysterious reason I have major guilt issues when I do spend time doing things I love. I always thought this meant I had low self esteem, not thinking enough of myself to enjoy some “me” time. We just have to change our way of thinking, wish it was just that easy! I work in healthcare, and I can say that alcohol is a depressant, whereas most ADHD meds are stimulants, so be careful what you’re mixing with what, could have unpredictable results! Good luck!

  34. I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child and took ritalin from about 8th to 12th grade. Once I left home for the military I dropped the ADHD meds and just recently started up again (I am now 29). I started again because I took Wellbutrin to help me quit smoking and it really, really worked. Not only did I quit smoking, it also reduced my desire to drink alcohol. I NEVER drank when i was on Ritalin before and only started after I stopped taking Ritalin at the age of 18.
    Once I finished the three months of wellbutrin and stopped smoking (going on 10 months now). I also felt a memory of what it was like to be normal and slightly happier. As for the frequency of my drinking…I would drink two or three times per week on average through college with one of those times resulting in binge drinking. To this day I still occasionally binge drink with friends as this seems to be the norm in my social circle. I am wondering if you can comment on the relationship between self-medicating with alcohol and ADHD. Is this common? Can ADHD medication relieve the feeling to self-medicate?

    After the Wellbutrin I took the Strattera for about 5 months and just today decided to switch. The Strattera appealed to me because it is not a stimulant and it seemed to help at first but then not really at all and it made me drowsy. My psych recommended I take Ritalin to see how it works since I took it when I was younger. I was actually hoping to try adderall because when I was in college I remember taking it once from a friend. The day i took it I studied for 8 hours straight and wrote an 18 page history report…probably the best paper I have ever written and I got the highest grade on my final. Right now I think I will wait a month to see how the Ritalin pans out before attempting a switch.
    One thing that this article sort of alludes to but doesn’t really address is avoidance. I tend to avoid EVERYTHING that I enjoy and opt for the security of doing things that I do not enjoy. I think every decision I have made post Ritalin HS days has been almost the opposite of what my passion tells me to do. I am very creative, musically talented, artistic, outgoing, I enjoy public speaking and I am smart. The path I have taken is military to private school to insurance job. I hate all these things but I can’t seem to get myself to switch to something I am passionate about because I worry that I will not be successful in making money….at least initially. Do you think this could be a symptom of ADHD? I am hoping the medication will at least give me some motivation to apply to other jobs or find something fun to do with my life….

  35. @IMNOTCRAZY

    omgomgomgomg….. I NEED to talk to u. I have so many questionsssss….. 

    ” I always thought my impulsivity, creativity, wanting to ‘take the road less-travelled’, passion for things I love, do-or-die mentality, inability to ‘turn off’ my thoughts, easily bored with jobs.relationships,homes, self-stimulating behaviors (caffeine & nicotine abuse), ‘over-thinking’ everything, remembering pointless trivia made me mentally ill.”

    OH MY GOD THATS MEEEE…
    except when I asked my doctor about it, I think she thought I was a “drug-seeker” and told me to eat a healthier diet.. WTF

    plz e-mail me…. coffeecup2945@yahoo.com

  36. @imnotcrazy-I could have not said it any better. Everything you listed is a mirror image of my symptoms and thoughts. Just started Vyvanse, and my whole life has turned around for the better, without being a druged out zombie. (I feared that my whole life!) Be proud of who you are, and never make excuses, you are definitely not alone!

  37. Just want to say Thank God I found a sympathetic family doctor who prescribed me Adderall XR. It is changing my life! I’ve been on it since January, and so glad I didn’t get treated like a ‘drug-seeker’. There is a huge stigma with this ADD stuff, most people don’t acknowledge it as an actual condition for adults. I always thought my impulsivity, creativity, wanting to ‘take the road less-travelled’, passion for things I love, do-or-die mentality, inability to ‘turn off’ my thoughts, easily bored with jobs.relationships,homes, self-stimulating behaviors (caffeine & nicotine abuse), ‘over-thinking’ everything, remembering pointless trivia made me mentally ill. I’m not ill, I have ADD! Finally, just to know what it is! I might be socially inept, but I am BRILLIANT, I’m not like the rest of the lemmings that follow the path of least resistance, I’m a trail-blazer! I really need to get connected with other ADD’ers who understand me & quit making excuses to everybody else! Thank you!

  38. As grandma to several ADAH grandkids, these are great articles FOR adults. Now could you please rewrite them for 8 to 10 year olds to understand!

  39. anonymous:

    thanks for sharing, and I’m sorry to hear that you’ve been facing some challenges. It can be amazing to learn that you’re not stupid or a bad person – you just have a neurological condition, like 5% of everyone.

    Thanks for sharing your advice on how to stay focused. One of the major ways to succeed with ADHD is to hold yourself accountable, plan ahead, and make yourself meet small deadlines. Break a hard task into 10 small, easy ones that fit into your attention span – and you’ll be good to go.

    That said, hopefully medication will help you realize what it’s like to have a more normal attention span!

    You might be interested in what will be my latest post: the secret to success with ADHD

  40. I was recently diagnosed with ADD. I have always had difficulty paying attention, doing things that I dont feel interested in doing, and understanding complicated things. But I still didnt feel like all of my problems had been fixed. I always worry about things, I am very stubborn, and I can focus for hours on anything that doesnt make me feel stressed. I can talk to friends online or on the phone for hours on end, and i always pride myself in the ability to randomly change the topic and never let the conversation end, but I cant focus on schoolwork for even five minutes. I found this article by accident and reading it, along with Brooke’s comment about characteristics of ADD, I finally feel like i understand whats going on with me. I am starting medication in a few weeks and I am very hopeful that it will solve most of these problems, although I am a bit concerned with losing some of the things that “Rock” about having ADD.

    Also, I see alot of people have been commenting about their problems with ADD and I thought I should offer some advice of things that helped me a bit.
    First, for anyone who has a Mac, there is a program that you can find by simply googling “Freedom for Mac”. I fount that i often turned to the internet as my main distraction, and freedom allows you to shut off your internet for a pre-set time (you set how many minutes) and you cant turn the program off until either the minutes run out or you restart your computer. Although it wont solve for all of your problems, it certainly helped to some extent.
    Second, I bought a big calendar that hangs on my wall and every monday i take 5 minutes to write everything i need to do for the week on the calendar, updating it as the week goes by. I’ll even plot out what days Im going to start any assignment and what days ill work on it, etc. I found it to be more motivating and it helped me get the work done faster.

    I hope these help anyone who wants to try them out. Again, its just a minor check, but its certainly better than nothing. I am hopeful that medicine will help me even more.

  41. I know it’s tough to be different but you have to keep in mind, when you are in the lows, all of the things that make you special and shine. The trick I think is working on keeping yourself grounded when your feeling good. It will make it easier to pick yourself up when your feeling down. You feel more in control and that is important for a person with ADD/ADHD.
    Also try being aware of your thoughts and remind yourself to “reroute” the negative ones. Thoughts determine your reality. Negative thought patterns need to be broken. When they are replaced with encouraging and supportive thoughts, you attract better quality people, more opportunites and other positive things in your life.
    In that way, our “disability” becomes the thing that makes us “special” and unique. I know its hard when you feel burned just for being you but know that you can gain control and you can capitalize on who you naturally are. Your ADD can be your greatest asset.
    Plus, it’s better than being “boring.” That would be the pits.

  42. Glad to see this post managed to capture some of what it’s like to have ADHD! That said, I wonder how the stock markets are doing.

    *ahem*

    Brooke: Thanks for sharing. As you can imagine, however, we’re probably not the best people to help you figure out which type of ADHD you have. That said, I’m doing a bit of research into the types of ADHD and may be able to get back to you with more info later. =)

    ADHD-ski: That really sucks. The best thing to do, in my experience, is find people who think on the same page you do. Join a walking club – or do something that is going to attract ADHD people.

    ADHD people can make wonderful friends. Their friendships tend to be very, very strange, sometimes full of swearing (“screw you, man!” “No, screw you!”) and high energy. But fun.

    sausagecart: So all you have to do is use your ADHD abilities to monitor the markets to make so much $$ that you can do whatever the heck you want. Heck, you could pay someone to be entertaining for you! :)

    betterleftunsaid: That is quite the story. I hope you don’t mind, but I took the liberty of erasing the versions you previously made. Your attitude is right on, but life still sucks when the people you love are different from you and don’t get the way you operate.

  43. NOW, SLIGHTLY EDITED – AGAIN – DAMN ADD! I’M 43, NOT 33.

    Sucks and Rocks — I don’t know what could be worse. I was in college for 6 years, changed majors 4 times never finishing any. I am better at nursing, writing, business management and engineering than most who did, so there is a silver lining. Admittedly, the nursing skills were picked up as a Special Forces medic. Nevertheless, the result has been that I have never had a job that paid much more than maybe – double the minimum wage at 33 years of age. However, in my own businesses, I have been able to achieve regular monthly incomes of 30 – $80,000 per month, for 7 years straight until about two years ago. I was sometimes putting in whopping 10 – 15 hour work weeks. There are no jobs that will pay you these amounts unless you invent them. I’ve always been driven by passion for whatever it may have been. The drive fires up without warning but subsides even faster and for little or no reason. The lows can, and have resulted in outright poverty. I am currently storing several hundred thousand dollars of high end furniture, art, clothes and general CRAP that once graced a $2.5M home that was mostly paid for. It came to this after continuing arguments with a wife that generally ended with her threatening to “take [me] to the cleaners” in a divorce. So, I stopped working and blew it all in about a year. She may now leave with what she came with: NOTHING. I’ll be back on my feet within a year and it has been a year already – I hope. Let’s face it — THAT WAS NOT THE BRIGHTEST STRATEGY! I need to find a happy medium – fast! Adderall helps, but for now it all sucks, as the ability to bounce back without too much suffering is contingent on many factors – a decent economy would help immensely. The person who wrote the bit about we can do things no one else can do is so right. I know some ADD’ers. All suffer from unusually high IQ’s. It is a different brand of suffering, so don’t bother looking for sympathy because you won’t find it. You had it, or have it too good and it came far too easy for most to accept. You are surrounded by jealousy, fair-weather friends, leaches, mooches and doubters. Only your parents, your pets (gotta have a cat and a dog to survive the tough times) and maybe a special friend will be there for you. Thank God every day for them and never take them for granted, as they are your greatest gift. GOOD LUCK………..

  44. I myself deal with ADD. I have the anxiety, but overall i find myself to be abnormally neutral. neutral as in unhumanly neutral. im not sure if this has anything to do with ADD, but whenever i think of a subject i cant help but think of the literal opposing opposition. if anything my oppeness seems to fuel my depression (opposing thoughts always contradict my own (logically so, but its negative none the less))
    Like Brooke i am bored with almost everything. Every bit of information that passes through my head seems to be put into two categories. The stuff that makes sense and what is abstract to me (ie stuff ‘i wouldnt be able to think of myself’) How it clumps these groups i have no idea but it gives me delusions of grandeur at times it would seem. Even as i type this comment i find myself battling the every increasing blight that is dis-interest. Sucks bro it really does.
    The only benefits of ADD in myself ive noticed is an uncanny ability to absolutely kick ass in video games that are manic in nature such as Halflife 2: Deathmatch as well as constantly monitoring the stock market. Alright, now ive completely lost interest. ending post LAWLAWLAWLALWLAWLWLAWLAWLW

  45. You know what SUCKS about ADD? The fact that I can only focus on what SEEMS important to me at the time. So I’m trying to understand my Grandfather’s explanation of how to maintain a healthy portfolio and all I can focus on is how badly I am paying attention. People catch on to that, and they basically avoid speaking to you. I don’t have many friends, and the few I do are contemplate why they remain friends with someone so unappreciative. I have intelligence for days, but it’s the focus that counts.

  46. I forgot to mention the symptoms of Dr. Amen’s “Overfocued ADD” type:

    1. Worries excessively
    2. Oppositional and Argumentative
    3. Locked into negative thoughts, having same thought over and over again
    4. Tendency toward compulsive behaviors
    5. Holds grudges
    6. Trouble shifting attention from subject to subject
    (only have this when I’m doing something that is important to me)
    7. Difficulty seeing options in situations
    8. Holds onto his or her own opinion and wont listen to others.
    I have them all. Is it possible that these are under an umbrella of ADD-inattentive type? Does anyone else deal with the experiences I listed in the last post?

  47. I notice that I am usually bored with everything. Not too many things excite me or surprise me. I think my tone of voice most times is pretty dull or bored-sounding, tired. If something does happen to excite me, it doesn’t last long. I have occasional episodes of explosive, short-lived anger and am pretty moody most of the time. I experience anxiety symptoms all of the time (some times are worse than other). I have trouble organizing my thoughts without writing them down step by step (for example when thinking of my “to do” list). Have trouble with time management while running those errands or taking care of the tasks on my list throughout the day. I am impulsive; spend too much money when I shouldn’t, when online, skip around from site to site very frequently because I am constantly thinking of new things to research or questions that I have. I am concerned that maybe my ADD is not the cause of my anxiety, rather that my anxiety is the cause of my inability to concentrate. I was, however, diagnosed with ADD-inattentive type. Which bring me to another question: Do I have ADD-Inattentive type, or do I have one of Dr. Amen’s 6 types: ADD-Ovefocused type? I match, and way more accurately, with that type than with the inattentive type. I deal with excessive worrying and stressful thoughts about hypothetical events happening. I think a lot about death, fear of dying, of running out of time to do things with my life. I suffer from guilt most of the time about things I have done, things I am doing, things I’m afraid I will do in the future. However, I never think about suicide and would NEVER hurt myself or anyone else. Only worry about dying and my loved ones dying.
    On a brighter note: It is because of these thoughts that I never take my family for granted and always make sure to kiss them goodnight and goodbye. I am as the article says, very good at focusing on things that are important to me, and usually end up being very good at those things which are important to me. Things do come to me a lot easier than others-say in my college algebra class for example. I get the problems the first time while others may be scratching their heads still. I am good at focusing in on little details (like when writing a paper for class-proofreading, editing, spelling, etc.) I am very creative, innovative, and quick witted. I am good at all types of work in school, whether it is more mathematical, scientific, or creative. I can get interested in pretty much any subject for a period of time, but as I stated before, that period never lasts long for many things. I can see or notice things about people before they tell me and sometimes before I have even met them because I notice little things about them by simply paying attention to the details and physical mannerisms about them. Sometimes when chatting online with friends I can tell when something is wrong or what mood they are in even if they try their hardest not to seem upset. I believe I “feel” more, am more open-minded to things than most people because of my ADD and am more optimistic about people and life in general because of it. I am definitely more spiritual and romantic in thinking than most people that I know. I am also good at multitasking most of the time, but I cannot keep my focus on everything I need to and cannot get things done without having to keep going back to them because of switching around.

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